His dying is more of a surviving relative than his own. The Magical Hill
A narrative can be even more frightening than a mourning report; not only expressing your own sorrow and doing all you can to destroy, crush and articulate an entire life, but also help guide your lost loss to others.
Unlike rituals, eulogies must be read aloud, while transcripts are sometimes available online or on a memory card. This is a challenge for many people; not all of us are satisfied with the public speeches. There is also the ability to write something that needs to be heard and read; Sometimes things are very different from the way they look at the side. While the report of mourning can only be a few factors, the narrative ideally has an arc, a path – the beginning, the middle and the end: who was the loved one and what was their life with them? what they lose; which they have left in the future.
First, sit down and make a list – alone or with your family – about the decisive features of the beloved person: strong, generous, godfather, intelligent, talented, funny, empathetic, never sent hungry, always picked up the perfect gift, taught you honesty.
Then write a few words on which parts are most relevant to the deceased. What did you share? Are you more fond of knowing the deceased? Gentler? Saved, controlled, rescued, taught, changed? In which of your lives will you feel your loss quickest?
Think of some special memories, stories that exemplify your loved ones and your life.
Even if this person was not easy to determine, you should begin to see a bit of a central theme – quality or sets that actually belong to oneself: a teacher, a teacher, a thinker, a fresh air. for all of us.
If it's all ahead, it's time to start writing. Happiness is useful to the body, but the grief that develops the power of the mind.
Proust, The Past Has Occurred
The language of sorrow is rough and beautiful, devastating and uplifting. Thus sigh those who have forsaken us, and have celebrated their lives; Through this, we learn to appreciate their own short time among those we love. These moments – and words – that change us.
There is nowhere to be an ordered structure. It is a totally free form of art. Start with whatever you think you will find the right one, then experiment with dynamics, increasing emotion, and falling in your speech. It can be hard to start, then pull back, for example, or gently start and build from here. The things that you say can have profound effects on students: they can interrupt surface tension in their sorrows to express and comfort each other and then help them find the moments of lightness in which the first churches of hope and healing may begin to unfold and intertwine .
Try to formulate the sentence structure and talk. Many people use the cooler language to make remarkable events; you can do it – just do not wake up with words you do not often use. You want to be comfortable reading and hearing. Some people write every word; others have just put down a list of talk points to stay on the track and use an informal, state of mind style.
You want to try to stay in five minutes unless there's a strong reason to keep it longer. Time is strange and flexible when you are in front of crowds; sometimes it is over before you know it, but it can continue and it is very difficult to fill it up and it will not be uncomfortable and uncomfortable. While writing, you can often hear it aloud – someone before you think you will be helping or in front of a mirror if you want to keep it – and try to estimate how long it will go. Loud performances also help you hear words or phrases that you have used too often and you can choose singular or singing vocals. It may also be useful to practice video; you can step back and look at yourself from another point of view that helps you see and hear things you can not get inside.
As a precaution, he may need someone else – not so deeply emotional, maybe a family friend who is ready to take over and read reading when he is defeated. You probably will not need it, but your presence can be reassuring.
You do not feel like it's not easy or funny. It is important to change the mood and pace. To be honest. If you're angry when you feel cheated. If you feel blessed, you say that. Invite your students to a trip: acknowledge their sorrow, remind them to cultivate happier times and give them strength to continue. Do not forget about the things that bring you joy, iconic, decisive moments that you will overcome most from your lost love affair. Those who live in our hearts and memories can suffer eternally in our words.
If you quote quotes in literature and history; there are voices throughout the ages that perfectly describe our feelings and make a lyrical and delightful mood. They can add great elegance and depth to a memorial.
What is to stop breathing, but to release his breath from restless tides to ascend and extend and to get rid of God?
Now, many people are faced with a problem that is difficult to discuss but is very real and quite common. How do you end up with someone with whom you had a painful, discordant relationship? What if you are in a position to talk about them, even if you feel you have nothing to say?
There is no way to work with a lifetime of baggage to work with someone to write their own words – but this simple act can be a great way to get started. At least there are some things you can try to help in taking over.
First of all, though this experience is incredibly painful and difficult for you, keep in mind that the narrative is not about you; this is about the dead and the living for all those who feel that this is the pain of death. You may not be able to forgive yourself, but healing and great dignity can be found in recovering generosity damage.
Try to look at hard things with good features. Something might be small; maybe they had a great singer or tasty spaghetti, or their garage was very well organized. Can you talk about these aspects?
If not, try it straight. Think about being nice to the students to help them make it easier to do this than you do. Rather than being "untrue," perhaps this person is "full of imagination" or "great storyteller." Not stingy but "savory"; "stoic" instead of "emotionally unavailable"; not stubborn: "rail". There are often black humor moments in the midst of sorrow; this practice may be some.
But maybe that's not gonna happen. Perhaps you should be fair – and simply: "Most people know that the father and I have not spent much time in the past few years because we did not pay much attention and after a while we figured we loved each other far away." It is very likely, that there are some who will be connected. You do not have to be brutal; you will feel better later if you are not – and truth is often painful, even if it is gently challenged.
If you have to say things that are difficult for others to hear, try balancing them with any positives. Perhaps your relationship with your mother is so deep in your relationship with your brother. Perhaps the difficulties you have experienced are things that make it so deep; perhaps the pain she suffered, the strengthened, the compassionate honor. Finding the Truths . If there was no suffering, then the human spirit would never know the victory.
It's a delightful reminder if you can. Grief is dark and heavy, but beauty is also. Life is valuable because it is short. Death is coming to all of us; this is what we spend an important time that we leave in the hearts, minds, and lives of others. Great sorrow is a divine and terrible glow that transforms the wretched.  [19459003 Misfortune helps with a glimpse: 19659004] 1. Who were they?
2. What's the most important about them?
3. What do you most miss?
4. How have they been changed?
5. What impact did they have on their life?
6. What do you want the world to remember about them?
7. What did they leave behind?
8. What can we learn from their lives?
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